I just wanted to say a massive thank you for your help with my two sons and step son, for years my wife and I had been concerned something was not right with the boys but simply didn’t know where to start, we had been to the doctors a number of times, CAMHS (twice) to be told they were not ADHD and generally around in circles, one phone call to you and I started to feel the reassurance that you could really help and during the call you said you could, you lived up to your promise and we thank you for that.
You have gone that extra mile to help us all, you took the time to meet with them all individually ( ages 15, 18 and 32!) and they all felt elated after having met you and reassured that there was an explanation for the way they felt, the explanation you gave them of their condition and the associated traits along with the reassurance that they can be helped, proved the catalyst for us as a family to move forward. Now with a clinical diagnosis of ADHD they are all on the road to getting the help they need including medication, support at school for the youngest and at work for the two eldest.
For people that don’t do this every day and are very worried about their family the path forward can be a confusing one but you explained where to go in respect to getting a formal diagnosis, putting us in touch with the medical professionals that could help and provided on going support as and when it was needed, face to face, by text or email you were always there, we never once got the impression we were a nuisance and the information you gave was always helpful and accurate.
I would recommend anyone with concerns about their child’s mental health to contact you without hesitation, even if you have been thwarted or told nothing is wrong numerous times before, as a parent you know your kids better than anyone and you know if there is a problem, it is too important not trust your instincts on.
Finally we all get up and go work but few of us are in a role that can really make a difference to another person’s life, what you do does and in our case it has, you are passionate about your clients and it really doesn’t seem like a job to you, you seem to take it as a personal mission to help these kids out as you have with us and for that I really can’t thank you enough.
Sarah you’ve been such a brilliant help with my son. As you know when I first brought him to you he was self harming and feeling very depressed and bad about himself. He was recently diagnosed ADHD, 12, at a new school and floundering. We were worried sick.
However six weeks of seeing you and the brilliant news is that he feeling good about things again. He definitely seems happier in himself and school have said the same.
Than you for all your help with him. I think having someone to talk to that understands his ADHD and really knows how it feels has been a massive help and that you have been able to explain all about his ADHD to him. He said he feels better knowing his ADHD is the reason why he does a lot of things or feels a certain way about situations.
Thank you again and we will definitely contact you if he or I feel he needs to see you again.
I am so glad I made contact with Sarah. I only had ONE 90 minute session and in that time she literally set me on the right path to changing a lifetime of struggles. From following her advice and recommendations, my quality of life has totally improved more than ever! She just knew what was right for me, and I trusted her. Had I never seen Sarah I would be stuck on the same road still struggling. From just one appointment, she has helped change my life hugely for the better! Cannot recommend enough!
We were lucky enough to find Sarah shortly after our son was diagnosed with ADHD, a condition which was having a very serious impact on his life and prospects.
Having been through the gamut of NHS therapists and CBT counsellors, none of whom were of any real help at all, Sarah’s expertise in this area has been a revelation to us and an enormous support to our son.
Sarah’s has an in-depth knowledge of ADHD and great empathy with those who suffer from it. Her advice is always practical, unpretentious and down-to-earth, and has helped our son to cope with his volatile emotions much better than before.
We would highly recommend Sarah to any parent with a child suffering from this condition.
Mum & Dad of Male
Sarah is the consummate professional. She is attentive and supportive, nothing is too much trouble. Her commitment is impressive. Sarah was able to engage my son where many others had failed. He is now on the road to self discovery.
Mum of ADHD Son
I’ve had quite a few sessions with Sarah now and after so many disappointing and unfulfilling experiences with other counsellors I have to say it was worth the time and money with Sarah.
Mainly because she understands ADHD and spectrums on a personal level and also she isn’t clinical and unengaging which is often a problem with other counsellors. Sarah will talk back and advise and hand over valuable experience which leaves you elevated and not flat and dejected. Couldn’t recommend more.
Discovering I might be ADHD initially came as a bit of a surprise, but by working with Sarah and building more knowledge of it, it has helped me to understand myself more. By spending time with Sarah to educate myself on ADHD, I’ve started to make sense of my own behaviours and this has allowed me to have a more positive outlook about the future.
I had no idea I had ADHD until someone who has experience of people with ADHD recognised I was off the charts! After just one session with Sarah Templeton at Headstuff it felt that suddenly I could explain all the seemingly crazy impulsive behaviours I had been exhibiting since I was a child. I feel now I can forgive myself for erratic behaviour because I know that ADHD is a neurological developmental disorder that I can’t help having.
It is such a relief to talk to someone who understands what it’s like to live with ADHD. Sarah is such a supportive, non-judgemental therapist with personal experience of what living with ADHD feels like so right away I felt I could be open and honest with her.
I felt understood for the first time ever.
Headstuff provides a flexible service, so I know if I ever need extra help I can book some more sessions. I think this is vital to those just learning they have ADHD as so many new things come up that you learn are connected to the disorder.
It would not be an exaggeration to say that having therapy sessions with Sarah has improved my life and self-awareness in so many ways. I feel so lucky to have found an ADHD specific counsellor who can guide me through everything from clinical diagnosis to helping me understand the ways in which my diagnosis can affect my life and ways to work around this.
Headstuff is an amazing service which anyone who knows or suspects they have ADHD should access.
A 14 year old client of Sarah’s has learnt a lot about his newly diagnosed ADHD
What is ADHD? Well ADHD stands for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.. ADHD can be classed under two things, A mental Health Illness or a disability. It is not a disability in a sense that you are physically challenged however this is not the case mentally. There are now three types of ADHD; Inattentive, Hyperactivity and Impulsive and finally a mixture of the two. ADHD used to just be Hyperactivity and impulsive behavior, however, it has recently changed due to ADD (Attention deficit disorder) is now classed under the ADHD spectrum. ADD was the inattentive side to the ADHD. With people diagnosed add you would be able to tell by being with them for even a single day. You would be able to tell by their lack of enthusiasm towards certain things, some even say that the first D in ADD was meant to be Dreamer not deficit. Although times have changed now and both are classed together. This essay is going to be factual and a personal essay. Throughout this essay, I am looking to educate you about living with ADHD, how ADHD people react to certain things and what is ADHD.
People who are diagnosed ADHD can be different in many ways. Although when someone hears the term ADHD they would usually stereotype it with: Anger issues, no respect, cocky, Bullying, Naughty, Disruptive and not being able to keep still. Although these are all symptoms of ADHD they are not all as bad as you think, not all people diagnosed ADHD have all these traits applied to them, due to the fact you get diagnosed different levels.
Here is a list of some inattentive side of ADHD; having a short attention span and being easily distracted, making careless mistakes, being unable to stick at tasks that are tedious or time-consuming, constantly changing activity or task. I have listed only a few traits/symptoms of ADHD (Inattentive), my reason for listing these certain topics are because these are the most common symptoms. On the other hand, there is a very distinctive line between inattentive and hyperactive/impulsive side of ADHD. Here is a list of traits/symptoms for the hyperactive side of ADHD; being unable to sit still, especially in calm or quiet surroundings, constantly fidgeting, being unable to concentrate on tasks, excessive talking, being unable to wait their turn, acting without thinking, little or no sense of danger. Yet again I have only stated a handful of the symptoms due to the list could go on for pages long, however, these are the most common symptoms and traits of hyperactive and impulsive behavior within ADHD.
With ADHD you are not usually ‘just ADHD’. For instance, you can compare this with a ‘buy one get one free’ offer, although this may sound silly or stupid it is true in many ways. With ADHD you would usually have traits of many different learning disabilities or mental ‘illness’’. Dyslexia is a common learning disability found within ADHD and approximately 30% of people diagnosed ADHD are also Dyslexic. Out of all mental and learning disabilities, there are four that are more common than others, With dyslexia being one of them.. The three others are SPD(Sensory processing disorder), APD (Auditory processing disorder) and ODD (Oppositional defiant disorder). SPD, meaning sensory processing disorder, is a condition in which the brain has trouble receiving and responding to information that comes in through the senses. APD, meaning auditory processing disorder is a condition that makes it hard for kids to recognize subtle differences between sounds in words. Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) is a persistent behavioral pattern of angry or irritable mood; argumentative, defiant behavior towards authority figures; and vindictiveness. In some children with ODD, these behaviors are only in evidence in one setting—usually at home. In more severe cases they occur in multiple settings. For a diagnosis of ODD, the frequency and intensity of these behaviors must be outside the typical range for a child’s developmental level, gender, and culture.
There are many people who have been diagnosed all five mental and learning disabilities.
Living with ADHD
Living with ADHD is a lot different to living without it, too say the least. It can affect people in many different ways, I am going to list some ways it affects me personally. Most of the traits/symptoms listed above affect me in lots of different ways. With SPD, APD, and ODD all within me as well as ADHD my personality and moods can vary in many different ways, for example I could be happy and jolly at one point then it can change to annoyed or upset in an instant. This works vice versa due to I could be angry or annoyed then all of a sudden change to being cheerful.
Following what I have been saying throughout this essay I also get annoyed by different things, a few main things are; People, Tasks, rough objects and sound. Sound would be the main one for me personally due to certain sounds react differently due to the way my ears process them although you may not notice some sounds I usually will. Weather that being something small and quiet or loud and annoying, this is also the same effect with repetitive sounds or layered sounds. Sounds can affect me in lots off different ways all because it can change my mood and make me feel awkward and sometimes even hurt . I feel that people may not understand this so therefore they are unaware of the effects that it has on myself and many other people. When I say rough surfaces I mean some objects such as bricks or clay effect me highly and it can get to the point where I will refuse to do something due to the feel of the object this also links in with SPD and the sound issues are also to do with APD. ADHD affects me personally when I meet someone who is narrow minded and like to put people down for stuff that they cannot help, this can lower myself esteem massively and really have a big impact on my mood and feelings. This is not always the case because some people do not understand ADHD but then again some say they do know all about ADHD however they only really know the stereotypes. Many people get mistreated because of this and so have I in some cases. For example in my Previous school teachers would always moan and tell me off for stuff that I could not help but they would take no notice that I cannot help doing some stuff. Although I was not diagnosed ADHD at the time it was clear to many that I was. From these experiences it really negatively impacted me, making me want to act out and really disobey most people with an authority that I thought they did not deserve. This nicely links into another topic about ADHD and that is respect. Respect is key to an ADHD people are all about respect and fairness however most people think the opposite. Whereas some teachers or high up people may demand our respect we believe in them earning it. We are not just disrespectful and impulsive people, we are the complete opposite however this can change due to the person that you are.
Why I have chosen to do this topic for an essay
I am now going to give an insight on why I have chosen this for my essay topic. I have done this due to I would like to educate people on what ADHD is and how it affects people, in many ways. I have also chosen to do this because it is quit a personal topic and therefore I think that it will bring out the best in my writing abilities. It is also good because it can make things better for different people due to it can help me personally in the sense that people may be more aware of stuff that they do to a certain extent and then people can understand why I Act in certain ways at certain times. It also helps to get stuff out there so people might not think “He has ADHD he is just going to be angry annoying and irritating”. I would also like to educate the small minded people who do not take it seriously and just stereotype people with ADHD. In some cases people have been denied places at: Schools, jobs, public places and a lot more. Therefore I am hoping to get some points and messages across about ADHD.
For this paragraph I am going to try and give some do’s and don’ts for dealing with an ADHD student friend or child . I am going to start off with the do’s; To start off treat them normally like you would someone without ADHD due to this can help a lot with keeping peace because if you treat them like a child or underestimate them they will act how you are treating them and will be disobeying and may even completely ignore you, therefore whatever you say they will do the opposite. Another example for something that could positively affect an ADHD child or adult would be to pay more attention to the positives that they are doing and achieving. Doing this will really boost their self confidence and make them more motivated to do well more often. Not doing this can leave a bad effect on the person due to it will lower their self esteem, make them feel worthless and make them want to rebel more. Also make it clear that you will not judge them differently or give them less respect due to them being ADHD, this will impact them massively and make yet again boost their self esteem. Moreover not doing this can bring a negative effect on the person making them feel different and circled out. Now, moving on to the dont’s. These are some topics that affect me personally and millions of people around the world. The first don’t for me personally would be do not push ADHD needs aside, for this I mean do not try and act like we do not matter or we should have to deal with what everyone else does. This is true to some extent however most ADHD people have different needs. To put this into an everyday scenario it could be something as little as tapping repeatedly on the table, this will frustrate the life out of an ADHD person due to the repetitive sounds. Another example for the classroom would be to carry on telling the adhd child to stay still and stop fidgeting. Another example could be telling them to focus on what is happening now not the future. Although this may seem reasonable and might not mean anything to you this can now be classed under discrimination toward the child with ADHD. Another big thing with ADHD would not to judge them based off of what you have heard or read about ADHD. This can be little them and once again make them feel useless and worthless.
I hope that you have I have giving you a good insight on ADHD and that you as a reader have learnt a lot from my essay.